I’m going to try something here. Its rare that I get large chunks of time to blog these days, so for a little while I’m going to try to post a little every day. I’ll probably fail in short order, but I’ll try.
For today, I have a question: should I be offended about this?
Last Friday I was at the hospital (naturally, because that’s where I spend A LOT OF TIME), at the Family Practice Clinic for Sawyer’s school physical. Did I mention before that my 5 and 3 year old aren’t allowed to see a Pediatrician on base due to overcrowding? And that I have to have a telephone consult to make peds appointments for my 18 month old and 2 month old? Not even close to acceptable for this hypochondriac. We’ll be making the move off base soon for the kids (except for Emmett, probably, because he can usually always get in at the base, and it’ll make his referral processes easier). Anyway, I was in the waiting room, waiting past Sawyer’s appointment time (as usual), and Silas needed to nurse.
I have never been good at using a nursing cover – my kids aren’t big fans, and with my current issues with the left lady, I need to make sure that he’s latched on correctly, which he doesn’t like to do. So I usually just whip her out, let him get attached, and then cover myself as much as possible with my shirt.
So while I’m nursing Silas, one of the technicians comes out and asks if I want a blanket to cover myself with. I smile and say no thank you, because he won’t nurse well with a cover. The technician goes back to the front desk.
Ten minutes later (still waiting for this appointment), another technician from the front desk comes over with a blanket, and asks me to use it because nursing my son may make others uncomfortable. I smiled, said no thank you, and that it really wasn’t my concern if others were uncomfortable with me feeding my child in public, and that my son wouldn’t nurse well with the cover on. (BTW, not that it makes a difference, but I know that no other patients complained, because there was only 1 other person besides us in the waiting room, and he never got up to go to the desk)
Shortly thereafter, we were brought to an exam room, only 30 minutes late (shortest wait time so far for this clinic).
So should I be mad? Mike doesn’t think so, because they didn’t ask me to leave the clinic or stop nursing. But I think its ok for me to be at least a little mad, because now whenever I’m nursing my son outside of our hotel room, I’m thinking about the fact that I may be offending someone. And I don’t want to make other people uncomfortable, but I want more for my son to get fed when he’s hungry, especially if its in a medical setting.
The bottom line is that is that I need to make a decision – do I care what others think of me or not? What it comes down to to me is what do I put first – other people’s need to feel comfortable when staring at other people, or my son’s need to eat (obviously I’m still irritated about this incident). Of course, if I don’t feed him, he cries pretty loud, and that would make other people’s ears uncomfortable, and if we use a cover, he doesn’t latch right, and I hurt for hours after. If I use a cover AFTER he latches, the damage is done since I’ve already exposed the ladies. And I can’t pump and bottle feed – our pump got packed with everything else.
What would you do? And would you be mad?